I’ve shared here our struggle with The Boy’s temper over the years. His rage got so bad that we finally went to the Melmed Center for help. They diagnosed him as being a difficult child. When we discovered his brain tumor I asked the neurologist if that could be the culprit for the temper tantrums. He wouldn’t give a definitive answer. Nor would he confirm if it was causing the migraines.
After The Boy’s surgery we waited and watched.
And sure enough… the weekly migraines were gone and so were the outbursts!
That was a huge relief. Except… now he’s a tween. And all that that entails. I expect him to be rotten to his sisters, to have growing pains, to be tired and cranky. I see that happening more and more and it’s so difficult to decide if he’s just being a tween boy or if there is something more sinister going on. I hate that I have to second guess – that I have to tell myself to stop worrying. I am grateful that we have regular check-ups with his team of doctors so that I can share these things with them. They reassure me that they aren’t concerned. That he is healthy and everything looks great.
I still worry.
I am really enjoying my kids right now. Sure they drive me nuts with their sibling bickering and some days I’m ready to sell them off to the first bidder… but really… I love them!
The kids are old enough now that they can be trusted at home by themselves. Which gives the hubby and I more time to reconnect. But it’s more than just that. They are old enough now to have deeper conversations, their own opinions, sarcastic remarks. Each one has their own distinct humor and they never fail to crack me up.
Chickie is in high school. High. School. She’s getting ready for her first set of finals. And then next semester she starts her first college class. I am amazed at her motivation. She’s a smart cookie – I tell her that all the time. She loves school and loves to learn. This semester she had to memorize a Robert Frost poem and has been working on learning how to read poetry aloud – with a microphone *gasp*. She is so proud of herself – I am too. Almost every day she comes home excited to tell me something new that she learned. She especially loves it when she gets to go out to the stables to see the horses. The white mare is her favorite. We have been encouraging her to get involved in extra curricular activities. She finally picked an after school club – archery! Surprised me but I’m glad that she is trying something new. It’s fun to listen to her talk about her friends and the crazy things they do at lunch. I am sure she will look back on her high school years with fond memories.
The Boy is in seventh grade. He’s a tall bean pole – all arms and legs – but starting to show some muscle definition. He’s playing flag football and getting ready to start soccer season. I like watching him connect with his teammates. He’s been more of a one-friend kind of guy and so to see him with a group – it’s fun. He isn’t the star on his team but he’s the reliable one. He’s at every practice and makes sure to practice at home too. He’s usually the team captain at the games – the one the coach pulls over to give the plays to. I’m excited to see how he does in soccer this year. He did okay last year but didn’t really have the confidence he needed to follow through. I think this year will be better. He’s still really into survival shows like Man vs Wild. He’s watched every survival show on Netflix. He loves, loves, loves to camp. I would really like to find a summer camp for him where he can learn survival skills. I’m also hoping to send him on his first hunting trip in February. He won’t have a license to hunt but it will be good for him to tag along and learn the necessary skills. He’s been doing so much better since his surgery. His spelling has improved tremendously. In fact, he’s won a few in-class spelling bees. He still struggles with reading – especially when he reads out loud. I don’t know how much of that is a result from his tumor or how much is hereditary. It’s fun watching him grow into a teenager. He would be embarrassed to know that I think he’s cute in his skinny jeans and snapback hat. He knows he wants his hair just so, his jeans to fit a certain way, a particular pair of shoes.
Beans is in the fourth grade. It’s her second year with this teacher and we just love her. She is the perfect teacher for Beans right now. She is so encouraging and constantly brings out her strengths. She works hard on school projects and does a really good job with time management. She studies for the spelling bee and for class speeches. She is also a class leader. She makes new students feel welcome and maintains close friendships. Now that I am working at her school I get to see her in action. As her mom I know that she has two best friends but in class she spends time with other students too. She’s been starting to have stomach problems like her sister. It’s been difficult to figure out her triggers though. We have learned that sugar too early in the morning is a big no-no; things like cereal and syrup. There are other triggers we haven’t figured out yet though. It’s very much a trial and error process. Beans has the greatest sense of humor and is very quick witted. She comes up with the best one-liners. She is still not a morning person and now that it’s winter and the mornings are dark… well, it’s a struggle to get her going. The other morning she finally rolled out of bed 9 minutes before we had to leave. We piled into the car and headed out. When I commented on the pretty sunrise she hissed like a cat. I laughed so hard!
I love my kids so much and I love watching them grow into the people they are becoming. No, every day is not rainbows and glitter – in fact, some days are grey clouds and thunder – loud thunder! But I love them just as much on those days.
I am so blessed.